Disney’s Lost Princesses

If you haven’t seen the VMA video, don’t. People say Miley Cyrus sold herself, but to whom? We are the consumers. Even if you’re only watching to see what the buzz is about. Even if you’re offended by it. Every single view is more money in the bank.

Consider everyone else involved the setup. She didn’t act alone. The whole debacle was carefully choreographed to pin all the outrage on one “used-up girl” as we’re taught to perceive her.

This has happened over and over again with different Disney girls. Why?

In chess, pawns become queens. At Disney, real-life princesses become pawns. The Onion called the game in 2008. They jokingly predicted Miley would be depleted by 2013. Pretty smart prediction for a satire. And they’re spot on again in 2013 about the reasons this hit top news. This has to stop, but how?

I read an awesome post on Beauty Redefined today about how to deal with moments that challenge our personal resilience. I loved these steps:

1. Self-Kindness: Extending kindness and understanding to oneself rather than harsh judgment and self-criticism;

2. Common Humanity: Seeing one’s experiences as part of the larger female experience rather than seeing them as separating and isolating; and

3. Mindfulness: Holding one’s painful thoughts and feelings in balanced awareness rather than letting them define or overwhelm you.

Could we possibly take those same steps and apply them as a group? While we don’t have to condone this sort of behavior, can we have compassion for the individual who was raised to play this role? Can we have some understanding of how this affects us, and how we affect it? Can we call for awareness of the cultural and often corporate problems behind incidents such as these?

What do you think?