It’s Women’s Day, and I didn’t take the day off. But I did wear red. I did give a little time and money to some causes I care about. And I listened.
My roomate was surprised that we don’t make a big deal of Women’s Day here. In her home country it’s a serious holiday. The women get flowers and chocolates. And the men do chores. “I think they really just celebrate to make women feel better about being treated unfairly the rest of the year,” she speculated. “I mean, men already help with the chores here in the US, right?”
On Facebook a friend shared a Prager U video and asked if we really believe the gender pay gap is real.
And tonight at a youth activity, I found my son debating with a few boys his age. His friends were arguing that women already have enough rights, even more than men. Women get special scholarships, and some companies pick women over equally qualified men. The women they care about have always been treated well.
The overarching message I’ve heard today is this: “Is feminism really necessary anymore? What more could women ask for?” and “How far will this whole equality thing go?”
I’ve heard a lot of people talk about a social pendulum that’s swung past equality and is now harming men.
It seems the concern is that we may soon have a world where women dominate the public landscape, lead most of the businesses, possess most of the wealth, and run most of the governments. Where a man’s perceived worth hangs heavily on him being small, young, and beautiful, and he spends a chunk of his smaller pay check on products to make him fit to be seen in public. Where most movies are about women, unless it’s a dude-flick. Where we address mixed audiences as “ladies.” Where good women escort their men through public spaces to make sure they’re protected from girls being girls, but rationalize abuse at home.
Maybe they’re imagining a country that rejects a man, citing his wife’s infidelity, but elects a woman who brags about assaulting men and creeping on young boys. Where women lecture men about how they should simply talk to HR or get a different job if a company treats them badly. Where men who pipe up about such things are dismissed as snowflakes who don’t how good they’ve got it. Maybe they even get death threats. And in that world, a woman who stands against it can expect the ultimate insult: to be called a man.
I honestly couldn’t tolerate such inequality either. Can you?