It’s hard to get “there” if you don’t know where you are. Harder still if you don’t know where you’d like to be. You could spend the rest of your life retracing your steps in an attempt to figure out what went wrong, and at best, end up having gone nowhere at all. But the better bet is to find a good map, mark your current location and where you’d like to be, then figure out the path and get on your way.
I can’t believe it’s taken me three decades to figure it out. And of course, I say “you” meaning me as much as anyone. I’m just glad to finally be oriented properly. Happy trails!