Date a girl who reads…

Here’s a gorgeous little piece a friend mentioned on twitter and tumbler. For the record, my kids didn’t get to know The Cat in the Hat and Aslan on the same day or even in the same year, but they are well acquainted with both because I’ve always loved reading with them. They’ve both been little bookworms in their own right for years now, but we still love reading together. Honestly we do that even more than we watch Dr. Who.

I noticed this was written by another girl. I think guys and girls have very different values when it comes to dating. Guys, if you’re listening, my mini philosophy on the matter is that attraction fades even faster than beauty itself. It’s just a gateway drug that’ll leave you empty in the end.

Date someone who can laugh with you and work alongside you. Date someone who understands and respects you. Date someone who will be the kind of parent you’d want for your kids. If she’s all that but you wish she were cuter, try squinting!

Eh, okay, I really don’t understand it from the guy’s perspective. But please just try to see us and love us for who we are — a maxim I struggle to heed myself, but I’m hoping I will learn how.

Enjoy this sweet essay: Date a Girl who Reads, by Rosemarie Urquico. And Love, if you’re out there somewhere, you’d better like bookworms.


  1. @travisbhartwell

    Hey, I actually bookmarked this (from another source, but it was this exact quote) back in March. I admit that the ways in which my ex-wife fit this description were many of the reasons I fell in love with her when we started dating. And, because it is much like myself, I think this is a great description of what I look for as I'm back in the dating world.

    Perhaps guys and girls do value different things, but I suppose with my "life experience" (ahem) I start to value things like this more. 🙂


    1. velda

      I hear you. I think some people look at choosing love like they would plan a rocket launch: every box must be checked before takeoff. I tend to approach dating like a scale; in each person, what qualities do I like and dislike? How well does the good outweigh the bad? What is the net value each person provides me, and of all of the people, which relationships provide the most value right now? And yeah, I say "relationships" because I'm trying to get to know guys very well as friends, first. In my experience so far, the men who are patient with this methodology really aren't interested in me 'that way' at all. But I keep trying. Who knows? Maybe one of the friends I've got now really is being patient with me. Time will tell. But this much I do know: I want someone who sees me, warts and all, and loves me for who I am. Someday 🙂


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