I want a guy who is smart and can carry on an interesting conversation. I also prefer shyer guys who are easily thrilled by technology. I know, so shallow. It matters to me, though.
Attraction matters too, but not in the way that you might think. Sure, there are cute guys out there, but I am almost never attracted to someone until I know them really well, and then I start to notice features that are physically appealing. I don’t trust appearances or my psyche’s way of responding to them. As my friend Uri put it, “Romance doesn’t just happen, that’s infatuation. Real romance takes time.” I have learned to distrust infatuation, almost to the point that it makes me nervous. Almost to the point that I purposely avoid starting the “jungle engine” as another friend put it. I’m thankful for the friends I have gained this way, but I think it does disqualify me as a love interest in most cases. Here’s hoping someone out there will give me a very long, drawn-out chance someday 🙂 Or that I’ll find another way to deal.
As for the rest of this? I referenced the “after the manner of happiness” talk/scripture earlier. I think the list he’s got there is spot on. I want someone who will:
– Realize the importance of family
– Keep the commandments
– Live providently (even if it doesn’t involve raising animals)
– Love the scriptures
– Be prepared
– Enjoy work
– Take me to the temple often
Yeah, there are other things that would be cool to have in a relationship, but as far as I’m concerned, if I’ve got a guy who loves God, loves others, is smart, and meets this list, I will be happy. Now if I can find someone like that who is looking for someone like me… 🙂